To say that Filipino women are submissive, or even subservient, to their husbands is probably the most perpetuated myth about Filipino women that needs to be corrected, because it simply is not true.
When I first saw promotional material for Philippine dating websites, I was surprised to see the word "submissive" and "subversive" used to describe Filipino women.
The truth is, most Filipino women are not confrontational types and generally avoid shouting matches with their husbands, and with anyone else for that matter. But this does NOT mean that they are submissive. It only means that they have a different approach to life.
If you're a man trying to find a Filipino wife because you think Filipino women are submissive or subservient to their husbands, just know that they are not that at all. During the first years of marriage it may seem that way, but what she's really doing - especially if she's living with you in your own country -is observing you and getting to know you and your culture.
(Filipinos believe you won't really know a person unless if you live with him or her).
More than anything else, it is survival instinct at work. But once she's confident about herself, she will go out and do the things that she wants to do - whether that's taking salsa lessons, belly dancing or making friends with a lot of people.
Men who love Filipino women are only lucky that being family-oriented is so ingrained into Filipino culture, it's virtually impossible to break it. The typical Filipino woman will NEVER sacrifice her children for the sake of her career, unless if she needs to work in order to feed them.
She will also be the type to forgive a philandering husband for the sake of her children, so they don't have to endure the pains of a broken family. (If you notice, I said for the sake of her children, not for the sake of her marriage.)
Filipino women who get bossed around or treated badly by their husbands usually divorce their men. This was the case in so many marriages between Philippine women and Korean men. Many Filipino women in the 1990's and early 2000's went to Korea to live with their Korean husbands, only to divorce them after two years or so.
The old-Confucian Korean culture actually places women at an inferior position than men and hence, back then, the typical wife of a Korean did all of the household work and got bossed around a lot by her husband and in-laws.
In sum, Filipino women are not at all submissive or subservient to their husbands, they are simply not the confrontational types. They typically find other ways to solve a problem than face it head on.
With that said, if you still want to find Filipino women, here one website where you can find real Filipino women.
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